We ask ourselves, “Am I going to have enough money? How can I stay as healthy as possible? Am I feeling content, useful, have something to give, have something to create? Am I having fun? Am I going to travel? Am I actively involved in shaping the next generation? Who defines success? Who defines health, productivity, or usefulness? How do I create my own value? How do I create a paycheck? How do I gain recognition? Why am I here? What’s my purpose? What’s my bias? What’s my drive? What’s holding me back? Who is framing the debate and what can we learn by listening to other points of view?”
We look at that passion, explore it further and develop it more deeply, so that we spend the last 20, 30, or 40 years of our live enjoying, not having that passion be put down by society mores. We examine a kaleidoscope of possibilities, no matter what challenges we have physically, mentally, or emotionally. Disabilities to some are abilities to another. An ability might just be sitting there quietly. Diminishing eyesight or hearing could be a tremendous gain. Our eyesight might be less sharp, but we can see the world more.
Everything we do or don’t do is about care. How do we care for ourselves as we age? How do we care for our elders as they age? How can we flow more with the adult that we are caring for, be more in their process? The more gentle we can be with them, the more accepting with their world, the more we can be loving and kind with the person in front of us, the more we can follow our own process and be loving and kind with ourselves. If we honk the horn for that person who is driving too slow, then we do not have much patience with ourselves. How can care partnering (I depend on you as much as you depend on me) change the way we care for our elders and for ourselves.
What is life for? What is old age for? What do we mean by work? How can we translate the meaning of life and work into our later years? How can we reconceptualize work and life? What’s the point of living these last 30 years? How does money play a role in this? How does valuing by others play a role? What do we need? What do we want? How do we integrate what we learned from the last three days to find meaning in our own lives? What are we going to take home? We explore how metaphors can be used as conceptual containers for both understanding and enhancing experience. Going more deeply – laughing, learning, being.